Genesis 2:18 “It is not good for man to be alone.” -God

I believe God said, “It is not good for man to be alone,” because He knew that when we are without quality relationships, we find relationships with things that are not good. Just as Tom Hank’s character in Castaway found friendship in a volleyball, man will seek out artificial and unfulfilling relationships when no healthy ones are present. As unbelievable as the example of Tom Hank’s friendship with Wilson was in that movie, it is easier to believe when we look at how many other “things” we form relationships with in this world.

The bottom line is this: you and I were created by God for intimate, personal relationships, period. If we chose to ignore our innate desire for intimate emotional bonds, we begin to “bond” with other things in the world. Let me give you an example. We were meant to eat food and enjoy food as part of our need for nourishment and survival. The desire to eat is essential for our long-term, physical health. However, when our relationship with food changes from eating to live, to a desire for emotional comfort or peace, then a “relationship” forms with food that becomes unnatural and harmful. With obesity in our nation skyrocketing and quality relationships plummeting, is it hard to see the correlation between the decrease in healthy relationships, and the increase in unhealthy ones.

Man will not be alone… that is the bottom line. Man will find relationships. Somewhere, somehow, man WILL bond with something. This is the foundation of how addictions of all kinds begin and flourish in a person. If a person is to find true health in their life, and begin to build a quality God centered life, it must be built on the foundation of quality relationships.

Let me give you 4 quick tips that can jumpstart you on your quest for improved relationships in your life:

1.) Make a Commitment.
Make a commitment in your mind and spirit that relationships are important. As simple as this sounds, we are never going to put time and energy into something that we do not find important. If we are going to make relationships a priority again, is must start with the belief that they are important, and that our lives will be negatively impacted without them.

2.) Make TIME for relationships with your friends and family.
Where you spend your time determines what you value and find important. If we are going to have quality relationships we must put the first part of our time towards them, not just what life leaves us as leftover after everything else.

3.) Join a Church.
Join a church or local group of like-minded people to have a good practical
foundation for healthy relationships. A good church is going to be essential in finding people with whom to begin to build quality relationships.

4.) Grow Closer to God.
Building a quality relationship with God is going to be the most important
foundation for learning to have quality relationships.